You know the drill. You upload your engagement video, post your engagement ring pics and announce to the world “We’re engaged!” Then, the questions come pouring in. And they’re all centered on when exactly your knots will be tied.
Choosing a wedding date is often the first big wedding decision couples need to make. And that decision can even extend to include family input and bridal party needs. In a planning process where each decision seems it’s own micro-relationship test, choosing a wedding date needs forethought and patience.
The good news? We have a few things to consider to make that decision just a little easier.
Avoiding popular months? Hint: it ain’t June, hon.
Don’t be fooled by those old fashioned limericks about June brides. Let’s be real – these June-loving couples do not live in South Texas. With the heat beginning to rise to uncomfortable temperatures sometimes as early as May, Texas couples often flee to the cooler and pleasant months of fall. October remains the most popular month in the year to get married in San Antonio, with November closely at it’s heels. This often comes as a surprise to South Texas couples trying to find the perfect venue on their perfect date.
You can still enjoy the beautiful fall weather for your San Antonio wedding. You’ll just need to sufficiently plan ahead. Couples with their hearts set on a fall wedding will need to look to an 18 or 12 month planning cycle at a minimum if they are looking to snag a prime Saturday date. Alternately, being flexible for a Sunday brunch or Friday cocktail reception can give you the time of year you’re looking for, with the wedding professionals you want still available.
Think through the Holidays
The relation between great wedding dates and holidays have changed significantly over the years. Take Valentine’s day. This lovefest of a holiday was once a popular wedding date, with wedding decorations filled with pink, red and white.
Though there will likely always be Valentine’s day weddings, today’s couples are less inclined to choose the saturated holiday. Alternately, Thanksgiving and Christmas have grown in popularity for weddings. Avoiding the actual day of these family holidays, couples will rather choose the Saturday after Thanksgiving, or depending on when Christmas falls the Saturday before or after. Keep in mind, just like cooler dates in general, these holidays remain popular in South Texas.
Beyond a decor vision filled with Thanksgiving fall colors or a glittery Christmas palate, some couples choose holiday weekends that give their potential guests more travel dates. These holidays include Memorial Day, Labor Day, and Fourth of July. Keep in mind though, if you have a larger amount of out-of-town guests their travel costs will be higher over these in-demand dates. This applies to overnight accommodations not only for guests traveling in, but you and your wedding party.
Check City Events
Okay, we get it. Nearly every festival and large convention has been virtual for quite some time. But that won’t last forever.
When choosing your date, check your local Convention and Visitors Bureau calendar to ensure there are no large events that will mean road closures, heavy traffic, and high guest room accommodation rates. Events like marathons and festivals may be easy to identify, but look out for large association conventions and corporate events as well. Your CVB will be aware of these events that may not be widely known to the public. This is especially key with couples choosing downtown venues.
The Palindrome Dates
Palindrome dates are dates that can be read the same forwards or backwards, as in 1/21/21, which remained a popular wedding date despite it all. Palindrome dates are popular among couples, they feel lucky and special with the added bonus of being easy to remember.
Look over a year calendar to get a big picture of what those dates will be. For couples getting married in 2022, know in advance that February will be a popular month due to multiple palindrome dates. The most popular date that month will inevitably be Saturday, 2/26/22.
Though not technically a palindrome, other numerically pleasing dates follow the same popularity and pattern, for example the other Saturday 2/12/22. Ultimately, there is no reason not to get married on these dates, you’ll simply need to be aware of their demand and plan in advance.
Sentimental or Symbolic Dates
Ever been invited to a random Thursday night wedding? Though the day of the week may seem odd, there is a high likelihood that date was chosen due to its sentimental value to the couple.
Many couples stay away from dates that are popular to others, and stick to wedding dates that are important to them. You could consider selecting the date you met, the anniversary of your first date, or family dates such as your parents or grandparents wedding dates. If the date falls on a Saturday, added bonus.
The benefit of choosing a date special to you in some way is that you won’t be jockeying with other couples. Still, you’ll need to be flexible in other areas. Namely, your wedding vendors. If you have your heart set on the perfect wedding venue you’ve been dreaming about, get with them early to see if they have your wedding date. At the end of the day, if your preferred wedding professionals aren’t available on your special date, you’ll need to decide what is more important to you both.
The overall key is to consider what is most important to you both, be aware of potential impacts, and don’t bend to the pressure of other family members. As we said, this is one of the first big decisions you’ll make regarding your wedding plans. Stay confident and flexible and you’ll make the right decision and be celebrating this date for years to come.